Two new ones!

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:06:08 GMT

Well, after waiting forever, we got the placement call today. A 6yo girl and 7yo boy. Should arrive soon.

Got the due dillegence searches back....

feeds@yuku.com (preparedforrain) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 15:28:17 GMT

So....after we got the new kids...you know, the ones from the Wendy's parking lot......I sent in money and forms for due dilligence searches to the paternity registry to see if any sperm donors had come forward for the children. Fat chance but it has to be done.

I finally got the results today, certified results...no man has stepped forward to be named as Daddy for either of our new babies. That means that when we move to adoption in the future, which we plan to do, that we...

We are back at UPDATE 10/17

feeds@yuku.com (Jenamom) — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 14:51:23 GMT

The homestudy point they are coming out friday because our kids are out of school anyway. You would think after having 6 of these things done I wouldn't get nervious but I do. UGH and my kids had the flu last week and this week is dentist AND I have a ton to clean. FINGERS crossed, Prayers or whatever you do.

Does anyone care?

feeds@yuku.com (LavendernOldJeans) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 11:45:48 GMT

A poem written by Nola's older daughter in 2008 (age 11) about what it is like to be in foster care.

Does anyone Care!

It's me in my
closet, shivering with
fear, hearing the screams
and shouting in the background.
Does anyone know me?
Does anyone care?
Why? Why me!?
It seems to me
I will live in pain.
Why!? Does anyone care?
Does anyone know me?
As I live in pain God
watches planning a perfect
plan...

Little ones, finally!

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:10:13 GMT

I checked my email yesterday to find two from the CWs. In one she is asking us to do respite in August for a sibling group of three, ages 1, 2, and 3. This could lead to something more permanent, unknown still. Then another CW wants us to consider fostering to adopt a 7yo boy and his 3yo sister, which could be an immediate placement. We are also quite interested in learning more about them! I'm more excited about the babies, but DH is more excited about the older boy. We want to...

Foster care-government clinical trials

feeds@yuku.com (LavendernOldJeans) — Fri, 15 May 2009 03:55:28 GMT

1	Active, not recruiting	New foster feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama2) — Wed, 06 May 2009 15:54:13 GMT We got a new foster yesterday evening. Even after I told DH "no more teens!", he went ahead and accepted one! Apparently, they begged b/c they had no other place to send her. I was annoyed. But she is the tiniest, most petite 16yo that I have ever seen. She's been really quiet and solemn, but I'm getting the picture that she's a bit of a drama queen with friends and family. I had to rename my account b/c I couldn't get in under my old name, not sure... Another RUNAWAY! feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 20:50:51 GMT C took off with her 30-something year old boyfriend. She and B made up a lie earlier this evening about going to a friend's house, but things just seemed suspicious this evening, so we did some checking up on the girls. B came clean and told us what had happened. We have contacted the police, CWs, etc. The phone has been ringing off the hook this evening. The police have spoken with her and she said that she would come back when she was ready to. The police are trying to track this... Respite feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 21:30:37 GMT Our CW has asked us to do respite for M, the girl who last year we did a weekend respite for, and then thought was going to live with us. She is now 14, in 7th grade, very developmentally delayed. She got along very well with little K, playing with her toys and so forth. It sounded like it may be ongoing, like every weekend. I'm not sure why her foster family all of a sudden needs respite, except that I heard that the family is in the process of adopting a 7yo, and maybe there are... Exploring new agencies feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:38:33 GMT I finally took the first step in looking for a different fostering agency. Because ours has essentially said that we would never have really young children (because of lack of the very young and because there are so many Amish/Mennonite foster families that can only take the very young), we decided to start looking at other places. I looked around at some private agencies, but didn't find any that seemed to be for us. So then I have contacted two nearby counties that are a bit more... Doesn't understand feeds@yuku.com (Australorpe) — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 09:40:45 GMT I don't know what to title this thread really. 8 yo foster has been with us about 6 weeks. We cannot figure this kid out. Requested to see if IQ was low. Is low average. Kid does not understand so much. For instance, child shown a pile of stuff on the floor in bedroom and told to put it in proper places. Week before, the proper places had all been shown. Kid has to be shown 3 times, because there is no comprehension of what to do. When told to put away things (toys,... Finally going to happen! feeds@yuku.com (mamato7) — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 08:44:01 GMT I havent been around for awhile but Im back. Two weeks ago we completed our home study and we should be recieving something in the mail any day now saying we are licensed and our home is open. Its been a long time coming and Im really excited and nervous at the same time about getting that first phone call. Any advice ladies? I just want to do everything right. Introducing K feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 21:38:30 GMT When they came to pick up M on the 30th I, off the cuff, said that we need a little now that is not mobile. I honestly didn't think we would get one since there aren't many infants that come into care in our county (not to mention we just had a FK moved). Well, today I got a call for a 6 week old baby boy that was getting released from the burn unit 1 1/2 hours from here. We said yes. They said that they had to go get him so it would be after 5pm, this call was at 11am. We went... New placement feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 11:44:02 GMT Yes, we accepted a new placement today. She will be coming this afternoon. I actually have known of her, b/c T knows her, and she goes to the same vocational school as my older two. T wanted me to find out if she could live with us when she first went into placement elsewhere. Not sure what happened at the other home, but I do know it was the home that K and L ran away from two summers ago during respite. Hope we're not too crazy to let bring another one into the picture. The three... Lifebooks feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 07:49:41 GMT How many of you have created "Lifebooks" for your children? We recently went to a foster parent training and learned that it's a state requirement here in Ohio. Our agency has given us some pages that can be the start of it. I bought binders and page protectors and we have started it with all three girls. A lot of it is memory recall and putting together bits of information from their past. All three have seemed interested. I don't want it to become a dreaded... Bio parents having your address?? feeds@yuku.com (mamato7) — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 07:40:46 GMT It seems that most of the stories Im reading on the boards here, the bio parents dont know where the foster home are.Im kind of confused about that because we were told in class that not only do we have to disclose our address but they also encourage the visits with bios to be in OUR home. Not too crazy about that idea. Is this a case by case thing or do all the states have their own rules on this. Also, has anyone had a situation where they have run into a bio parent at the... Introducing M feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 18:24:06 GMT Today we received placement of M. She is 2 years 7 months old (4 months younger then Peanut). I will write later after babies are in bed. Looking for FP association ideas feeds@yuku.com (Georgia Mommy) — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 22:05:12 GMT Our adoptive and foster parent organization has gotten really stale and boring. I am wondering about any that y'all are aware of. Where do you meet? Is there food? How do you manage childcare? What do you do, etc. I'm trying to gather some ideas to present.

Active, not recruiting

New foster

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama2) — Wed, 06 May 2009 15:54:13 GMT

We got a new foster yesterday evening. Even after I told DH "no more teens!", he went ahead and accepted one! Apparently, they begged b/c they had no other place to send her. I was annoyed. But she is the tiniest, most petite 16yo that I have ever seen. She's been really quiet and solemn, but I'm getting the picture that she's a bit of a drama queen with friends and family.

I had to rename my account b/c I couldn't get in under my old name, not sure...

Another RUNAWAY!

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 20:50:51 GMT

C took off with her 30-something year old boyfriend. She and B made up a lie earlier this evening about going to a friend's house, but things just seemed suspicious this evening, so we did some checking up on the girls. B came clean and told us what had happened. We have contacted the police, CWs, etc. The phone has been ringing off the hook this evening. The police have spoken with her and she said that she would come back when she was ready to. The police are trying to track this...

Respite

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 21:30:37 GMT

Our CW has asked us to do respite for M, the girl who last year we did a weekend respite for, and then thought was going to live with us. She is now 14, in 7th grade, very developmentally delayed. She got along very well with little K, playing with her toys and so forth. It sounded like it may be ongoing, like every weekend. I'm not sure why her foster family all of a sudden needs respite, except that I heard that the family is in the process of adopting a 7yo, and maybe there are...

Exploring new agencies

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:38:33 GMT

I finally took the first step in looking for a different fostering agency. Because ours has essentially said that we would never have really young children (because of lack of the very young and because there are so many Amish/Mennonite foster families that can only take the very young), we decided to start looking at other places. I looked around at some private agencies, but didn't find any that seemed to be for us. So then I have contacted two nearby counties that are a bit more...

Doesn't understand

feeds@yuku.com (Australorpe) — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 09:40:45 GMT

I don't know what to title this thread really.

8 yo foster has been with us about 6 weeks. We cannot figure this kid out. Requested to see if IQ was low. Is low average. Kid does not understand so much. For instance, child shown a pile of stuff on the floor in bedroom and told to put it in proper places. Week before, the proper places had all been shown. Kid has to be shown 3 times, because there is no comprehension of what to do. When told to put away things (toys,...

Finally going to happen!

feeds@yuku.com (mamato7) — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 08:44:01 GMT

I havent been around for awhile but Im back. Two weeks ago we completed our home study and we should be recieving something in the mail any day now saying we are licensed and our home is open. Its been a long time coming and Im really excited and nervous at the same time about getting that first phone call. Any advice ladies? I just want to do everything right.