Issues and Resolutions

Weeding out a behavior

feeds@yuku.com (JoFoMama) — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 22:44:52 GMT

Overall, the kids' behavior have been improving, especially M, both at home and school. One of his annoying behaviors is that when he is told to do something that he doesn't like he has to make sort of a grunt "uhhh" in response. It doesn't seem quite worthy of a time-out, but I'm a little at a loss for what to do to get rid of this response. He has had the bad habit of losing communication when angry and just grunting and fussing.

I do have to laugh at...

I really don't know what else to do - any advice welcome.

feeds@yuku.com (adoptolder) — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:05:41 GMT

Both my older kiddos seem to be doing okay, right? WRONG. For some reason, both of them decided to go crazy over the Christmas holidays and I have no idea how to cope right now. I am doing the best that I can, but I really don't know if it will be any help at all.

Jessica was doing great - she graduated from high school, had been promoted 3 times in the National Guard, and was away at training to become a Medic. She was doing great there, learning lots...

hydrophobia

feeds@yuku.com (LavendernOldJeans) — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 13:26:50 GMT

B used to be my bath lover. Still, when he takes a bath, he is in there for a while having asssorted naval battles, if not cleaning. But he is being extremely resistant to bathing or taking a shower, going through elaborqate fakes and downright lies to avoid washing his hair. He has no tears type shampoo. When "baby shampoo" began to seem to sissy, got him tearless things like Boudreaux's Butt and Hair wash, which he thinks is funny.

Is this a normal developmental...

Normal child mischief or not?

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 17:05:21 GMT

Today I went to go check the mail (gone maybe 3 minutes), when I walked in the door A and L were in the bathroom together with the door closed. This is a big no-no. I opened to door to A wetting down a towel and L announcing that A peed on her back! Indeed he had. I was not too pleased and actually paddled his behind. Is this a normal child mischief or should I be concerned about something deeper? I remember way back when I was little that a neighbor kid used to pee on my younger...

Help! I need some ideas!

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 19:11:54 GMT

A is trying my patience. He will not obey his teacher on a regular basis. Just about every day I get the same notes from his teacher. About once a week I get a call from the school asking me to talk to him on the phone because he will be better the rest of the day if I tell him to. He obeys and listens to me great. However, he will not transfer that to anyone else. If I had a little me that could sit on his shoulder all day, he would do great. It is almost like he only respects DH and...

Sexual orientation in kids

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 08:37:08 GMT

Odd subject I know. When do kids know their sexual orientation? How young can they be? How does this effect their frinedships and behavior if they feel different?

Sadness

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 01:59:46 GMT

I feel sadness for A. When I was a child, if I saw a kid acting like him in school I would have been afraid of them and stayed far away from them. I sure wouldn't be inviting them to birthday parties and other such events. A is not small and is a minority in his class, imagine what the kids think of him. Pushing them, throwing his chair, crawling on the floor, disrupting the teacher, interfering with their activities....

Heck, as his mom I wouldn't allow him to go to a...

Kids and Glasses

feeds@yuku.com (LisCor) — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 20:42:30 GMT

Anybody else have kids with glasses? P is horrible on his. For instance, we bought him a brand new pair right before school started. Tommy Hilfiger brand so they cost a pretty penny -- for kids' glasses, anyway. Tonight, he came home and he has bent the frame beyond repair, I do believe. That money, gone down drain. This is the second pair he has destroyed. Our insurance won't cover another pair until 2011. He has Medicaid glasses, but they don't have the transition...

Door Alarms

feeds@yuku.com (mylittleguysmom) — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 08:21:14 GMT

We're joining the ranks of parents that have had to alarm their children's bedroom doors. My son (now 10) has taken to nocturnal romps through the house. The first time we caught him (not his first time out and about), we realized that he had been running around for four hours and had his sister involved in his activities. We thought that the consequences that rained down from that little episode would/should be enough to stop him, but it was wasn't. He doesn't learn from...

Stray puppy personalities

feeds@yuku.com (mom2countrykids) — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 19:02:43 GMT

I have two kids that for lack of a correct name for it are stray puppies. To say they have boundary issues is mild. They will seek out and chat with anyone. I am talking about S 17 and T 8. S can strike up a conversation in the bathroom! She gives way to much information to total strangers. T tends to tag along with her. Example at the sand hills they were sand boarding. I allowed them to choose their own hill and S and T went straight to a hill that had people sliding and...

Defiance and peeing - the biggest issues

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:58:08 GMT

AL has come a long way. The last issues we are dealing with is the continued defiance and peeing himself. He will not listen to the girls and most of the time gives grandma a hard time. There are times that I need the girls to watch him and he gives them a hard time. At home we have him go to his room while we are gone. You would think that he would rather listen and stay downstairs but he doesn't seem to care. Any suggestions on what to do in a hotel situation? I have things I...

Vacation attitudes

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:42:40 GMT

Vacation and Jo typically don't blend well. I just don't understand her behavior at all. We went to the beach, access to several lazy rivers, pools, jacuzies and the beach. Jo spent half her time pouting. We even left her to pout and went shopping. Last time we went white water rafting she did the same thing. Even my SIL is seeing the pattern. I just got to the point where I ignored her and went about having fun with everyone else. About half way through our trip she changed...

tantrum trick

feeds@yuku.com (LavendernOldJeans) — Wed, 20 May 2009 12:15:24 GMT

Repeatedly, some of us have suggested tantrumming back. I saw this one on youtube under "Mother of the year/attack is the best defense" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GCPHwFFjcj8&feature=related

When I showed it to B, he had a light dawn in his face, and said, "Do you remember when you had the tantrum? I never had one after that. it really impressed me how stupid you...

Imagery Rehearsal as a helpful solution: ODHD, nightmares,night terrors, etc

feeds@yuku.com (LavendernOldJeans) — Wed, 20 May 2009 08:09:26 GMT

Imagery rehearsal is a form of covert conditioning (see Covert Conditioning)

We have discussed it and forms of it, mainly informal, such as magical thinking. It is what I have used very successfully with B.

Here are some articles on the subject:

Controlling...

What do you consider the "black culture" to be?

feeds@yuku.com (felmel) — Mon, 04 May 2009 15:57:54 GMT

DH had someone at work (that avoids him) come up to him and ask him how he plans to teach the kids their culture. I was wondering what others think is my kids "culture" is exactly. I will discuss my thoughts later, DH's birthday is today and I am wrapping his present.

Children's Global Assessment Scale

feeds@yuku.com (LavendernOldJeans) — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 09:15:33 GMT

From the wikipedia article linked by 4my in another thread.

The Global Assessment of Functioning (GAF) is a numeric scale (0 through 100) used by mental health clinicians and physicians to subjectively rate the social, occupational and psychological functioning of adults, e.g., how well or adaptively one is meeting various problems-in-living. The scale is presented and described in the