After all of the worrying about writing a birth parent letter, I think that it was a hollow task.

The push for the album and the birth parent letter were quickly dropped by the agency...Instead, the agency mentioned that the birth mother as "she would like to meet you after the placement". Within two hours, the agency was pushing us to pick up the kids... They didn't even give us a chance to go over the children's history, tests, or life styles...(actually, they didn't even go over a single piece of data).

It seems that the birth mother wasn't going to really be involved afterall (CPS had been cracking down on her). All of that effort to make a heart felt letter and "album for her to review (and then give the children if we were selected)", went down the toilet...Here they both sit...