I have thought a lot about your response to my inquiry on FASD. I read pages on it in the special needs section as you suggested as well. I am beginning to think that RAD, FASD, and Autism Spectrum disorders look similar in some cases. I also think you are also correct in saying that it's a crapshoot.

My next question is this:

Where do I learn the skills necessary to parent these children whatever their alphabet soup of letters might entail. I want to be proactive. I want to be prepared for any scenario. Maybe this is just my constant urge to "be prepared" as my girl scout leader granny used to pound into my head. But other than this board, are there other sources of education? Should I just wait to see what I get before pouring myself into "what if's?" I really dont' want to be on the recieving end of a crash course in FASD, RAD, Autism, ADHD or ODD 101.

The more I read the more I am thankful every day for the health of my Bio kids. Yes, I have one with a pacemaker and oh so co-dependant, another with scoliosis, a special ed kid, and one teen that would sneak out of the house, steal the car and rob a bank without constant supervision. Not because he is evil, just young and dumb and raised since age 10 by his bachelor father. Even with all of the issues my children have I feel quite inept with the Dx's I see before me in the foster system. I know I want to parent more kids. I know I can do my best to give them a caring and loyal family. I have to admit tho, I am as afraid as I am excited.