Neither of my kids came with any formal diagnosis, but after time living with them, I am 99% sure one of them has FASD. (I should say I suspected it very early on, but I turned that little voice off for a while.) Both kids will be evaluated next week. They have already received other diagnoses since living with us, but we want to know if the FASD is a major factor.

You sound a lot like my husband and me. We are very proactive --- give us an unworkable situation and we are going to figure out a way to make it workable.

Listen to Aus; she has been such an enormous help to me. You will get a lot of sound advice here.

Read, read, read. Be prepared, because I think it would be safe to say you are going to get a kid (or kids) with some issue. How can they not be affected with the lives they have led thus far?