My folks took her out on her actual birthday. When we came back my SO, his son, the kiddo and I went out to lunch and to Camp Snoopy. She had a very good time, but it did not turn out to be as much fun as it had in the past. My SO's son did not seem to think that it was his job to hang out with her. I informed him that he had been invited along on someone's birthday and he better act accordingly. He shaped up mostly. I was surprised- I thought I had picked a winner for both of them.