This is so hard! I see my kids struggle with that loyalty to Birth Mom. It's the biggest reason J. can't even live with us. A. got a card from her the other day. She does a good job writing positive things and supporting our new family in her letters. But poor A. immediately burst into tears because "I haven't even thought about her all summer." He still feels guilty, even though she's given him permission not to.

Having said all that, I think you should shout from the rooftops about the 33's! It's a big deal! Congratulations to you and DD! :D UNM