At what point do you decide you just can't deal with a foster childs issues any longer? L2 is about on my last nerve. We have really had to change our lifestyle for him. We went malling the other day and he whinned and pouted and carried on the entire time. Our last fk's loved to go riding in the stroller and we even took them to the rennaisance festival in NC. I longer take trips during the day to Walmart or the grocery store. I wait until DH gets home to do my shopping. He is just overwhelmed by everything. About the best place he can go to is to eat out. He loves to eat.
He also needs constant attention. I have run into him and knocked him over because he is right on my heals. If I go to the bathroom he is outside the door banging, when I do laundry he is standing there on the dirty clothes, when I cook I have the rest of the famiy keep him away so he doesn't get burnt. He will try to sneak in anyways. He has to be constantly interacted with. He will not play with his toys unless I am doing it as well.
The babynet lady was over and I told her that he constantly repeated himself even though I responded to him. When she got ready to leave she gave him a star sticker on his hand. He came and showed me and I responded that he got a nice yellow star sticker. He put his hand in my face again and said star. I responded that yes it was a star. He put his hand in my face again....he did this at least 8 times while she watched...finally I stopped it with food. If I try to redirect it will only work if I am personally doing something with him. If I try to ignore it, he will get louder and more frantic.
If I get him to take a nap, he will only sleep for 1/2 hour and then be right back at it. I am about going crazy. I can really see improvements in his speech and he is not as wild, but the constant attention seeking is driving me crazy. I do have other children and a house to take care of. The house is trashed, laundry never gets completely done and I have done no painting because when he finally goes to bed at night, I am totally drained.
I am seriously considering telling his SW that they either need to provide 1/2 day child care or find another home for him. If they move Peanut as well, my family will hate me, but I can't go on like this. I feel like I have no life of my own at all.
He also needs constant attention. I have run into him and knocked him over because he is right on my heals. If I go to the bathroom he is outside the door banging, when I do laundry he is standing there on the dirty clothes, when I cook I have the rest of the famiy keep him away so he doesn't get burnt. He will try to sneak in anyways. He has to be constantly interacted with. He will not play with his toys unless I am doing it as well.
The babynet lady was over and I told her that he constantly repeated himself even though I responded to him. When she got ready to leave she gave him a star sticker on his hand. He came and showed me and I responded that he got a nice yellow star sticker. He put his hand in my face again and said star. I responded that yes it was a star. He put his hand in my face again....he did this at least 8 times while she watched...finally I stopped it with food. If I try to redirect it will only work if I am personally doing something with him. If I try to ignore it, he will get louder and more frantic.
If I get him to take a nap, he will only sleep for 1/2 hour and then be right back at it. I am about going crazy. I can really see improvements in his speech and he is not as wild, but the constant attention seeking is driving me crazy. I do have other children and a house to take care of. The house is trashed, laundry never gets completely done and I have done no painting because when he finally goes to bed at night, I am totally drained.
I am seriously considering telling his SW that they either need to provide 1/2 day child care or find another home for him. If they move Peanut as well, my family will hate me, but I can't go on like this. I feel like I have no life of my own at all.
Felicia
